Showing posts with label 2012. Show all posts
Showing posts with label 2012. Show all posts

Tuesday, December 11, 2012

Kelvin's Mandarin works!

We recently went on a 4D3N cruise to Malacca and Port Klang on-board Costa Victoria. There were lots of activities to do for the kids and shows to entertain the whole family.

On the first night, there was the Magical Shadows show. We went to the venue early to get good seats. We got front row seats. Before the show started, one lady approached us and asked (in Chinese) if someone was sitting on the extra seat in our row. Of course, hubby and I didn't understand her so we asked Kelvin to interpret and reply to her.

The lady turned out to be a Chinese national who has been living in Singapore for more than 20 years. She can actually speak English, but since Kelvin already replied to her in Mandarin she continued the conversation in Mandarin. She said she was impressed that Kelvin was able to speak well (yay!).

To cut the story short, she was seated with us throughout the entire show, talking to Kelvin in Mandarin (during the whole show, too!). We could hear her discussing something with Kelvin (probably about the different shadow formations done by the duo on stage) and beaming a smile. 

After the show, she was all praises to Kelvin for being able to converse well in Mandarin. She said it was good that he knew the language and that he should continue practising the use of the language. I was way over the moon hearing her (someone who is an expert in the language, and who has a Chinese tuition centre in Singapore) say that. Going on this cruise proved to be very fruitful indeed. I hope Kelvin's confidence in using Mandarin improves after this affirmation :)


Monday, December 10, 2012

A Cruise to Remember

Finally, we were off to our first cruise experience on-board Costa Victoria for the December school holidays. Little did my husband know that I had something more than family fun in mind. 

Friday, November 23, 2012

Thanksgiving 2012: 35 years of gratitude

A blog of Thanksgiving - a long-delayed birthday blog of appreciation - to all the blessings I received (be it people, places, things or events) this year and for the past 35 years.

Friday, November 16, 2012

Kelvin's Rite of Passage

After months of researching for clinics and comparing prices, we have finally gone through the process and it's done! 

Less than a month ago, we visited Hamid Family Clinic in Pasir Ris to go for preliminary doctor's visit before the procedure (circumcision). We had to wait for a while for the doctor to arrive but it was all worth the wait because the doctor (Dr Hamid) was very friendly and professional. He was able to address all our questions and my son felt at ease with his instructions on how to prepare for the "big day". Dr Hamid did a preliminary check and interview with Kelvin and advised him accordingly.

Two days ago, we went back to Dr Hamid's clinic for the actual procedure. We were all ready - baggy shorts and deposit slip in tow. Kelvin was a little bit nervous while waiting (went to the washroom several times and said he seemed to have stomach pains). When he was called in to the operating room, we asked if we could go in with him. The nurse said it was ok and we ALL went in (me, daddy and Ira).

Kelvin was prepped for the procedure while Ira was busy playing with the phone (which was a good thing since he was the one who was more nervous than Kelvin). We let him sit in the office, take some sweets and play games. Mark and I stood by the door as we watched the doctor and nurses/assistants begin the procedure. Kelvin was becoming more nervous but he carried himself pretty well. He held his hands to his chest. I was there watching him put up a brave front. I knew he would be ok but mother's instinct pushed me to go to him, to hold his hand and show my support - to let him know that mom's here and that everything will be ok.

I witnessed the whole procedure from administering the local anesthesia to the pulling and cutting and stitching (yes, Kelvin had undergone the normal procedure, not laser). It was indeed a gruesome site and I'm glad I was there to tell Kelvin to just look at the ceiling lights. The doctor made sure the he didn't see anything that was happening (because this would make him REALLY scared for sure!) and said reassuring words to him. When the anesthetic has taken effect the procedure went well - Kelvin didn't feel any pain at all (that he couldn't handle). From time to time he would squeeze my hand as he felt some tingling sensation but not pain. After a few minutes, the procedure was over. He was relieved and couldn't believe it was that fast to do it. But his hands and mine were a bit numb from the squeezing.

He got down from the operating table, stood up, fixed his own clothes and was smiling around as if nothing happened! Right there and then I knew everything went well. As I was talking to the doctor on how to take care of the wound and stitches I felt weak in the knees, like my whole body was burning. It's as if something came over me and I felt like vomiting. I think it was then that everything sank in - witnessing the surgery, with blood and all. I've undergone a CS and normal delivery but didn't really see the gory stuff so I guess I was "emotionless" then. I'm just thankful I didn't faint in the middle of the procedure!

After hearing so many scary stories about circumcision, I'm glad we are done with it (one more to go). Preliminary doctor's fee was $37 (inclusive of $20 deposit) and actual day's fee $210 (inclusive of medication). Not bad as compared to other clinics which charge a hefty $900 and above.

It's only Kelvin's second day and he is doing pretty good (aside from the pain he felt a few hours after the procedure). He can walk properly. He can definitely eat well. And he can make jokes. The important thing, I guess, was that he wasn't traumatized by the experience. And he was eager to call his friend to share his experience.


This was Kelvin, before and after the procedure. 

See the smile on his face? Priceless :)



Thanks, Dr Hamid!



Thursday, September 13, 2012

Singapore Living Expenses: then and now

Living in Singapore for the past 12 years, I have somehow witnessed how the cost of living changed over time. Here is a list of living expenses as I have experienced their rise and fall (?).

Accommodation (rent or mortgaged or owned)
  • this is where a big chunk of our money went 12 years ago (renting a room then a flat)
  • accommodation type: HDB flat (high-rise, gov't funded buildings), private apartments, condos, landed properties (semi-detached, terrace houses, etc)
  • rental fees depend on location, proximity to amenities. The closer to town/city area, the more expensive. So are units near MRT stations.
  • from 2000-2002
    •  room rental fee was as low as $500 per room per month (for a family of 3, excluding PUB) in a condo (Normanton Park, located along AYE (a convenient location going to the city)
    • 3rm HDB flat rental in Toa Payoh (close to the city), top floor, was $900 per month
  • from 2002 onwards, rental prices spiked. A common room in a condo would cost $500 but only for one person in the room. A 3rm HDB flat near the city would cost minimum $1200-1500. These days, room/flat rentals even in the outskirts are too pricey! Rental flats in Sengkang (4rm) cost as much as $2000 (some even more) - a price tenants would only be willing to pay (years ago) if location is near the city. 
Groceries 
  • there are a lot of grocery shops, supermarkets, convenience shops and wet/dry markets all around Singapore.
  • grocery expenses depend on how families/individuals plan their meals. In our case, back in 2000-2002, we would spend only about $300 or so for a whole month's groceries. These days, we are spending about double that for groceries, but I do admit the family has gone bigger and the kids eat more.
3. PUB - this includes electricity, gas, water and waste disposal. Yes, you do have to pay for water and waste disposal in Singapore (I say this because we didn't have to pay water in my province in the Philippines).
  • For those who are renting a room only, your PUB can be included in your monthly rent or the main tenant/owner can compute your share of the bill every month. This will mainly be based on consumption (of course, not as accurate as you would like it to be) depending on the number of people living in the house. 
  • Some owners charge just $50 (fixed) for PUB. But the amount can go as high as $100 (or more) depending on the amount of PUB monthly bill if it is not assigned as a fixed amount. 
  • Before signing in to a tenancy agree, make sure you understand and agree to the allocation of PUB bill. Bear in mind that tenants usually have problems because of PUB sharing.
4. Phone bills - there are 3 main telephone companies providing telecom services in Singapore - Singtel, M1 and Starhub. For more info on their services and products, please visit their websites.

www.singtel.com
www.m1.com.sg
www.starhub.com

Just a caution, only get a plan that you can afford so you are not caught up in a situation wherein your bills are too high for you to afford to pay them.

5. Internet/Cable - I assume most of us probably need the internet either for work or personal use. The telcos mentioned earlier also provide these services. You can visit their website to check which plans fit your needs.

Cable services may be a must to others so this can also be another expense to consider. The 3 telcos also provide this service. Do check out their packages of phone line, cable and internet to save on monthly bills.

8. Food - eat at home or eat out?
  • If you want to save on food, eating at home and bringing packed lunch is definitely the best way to save money. You can incorporate this expense in your groceries. 
  • if you don't know how to cook, this is the time to learn :). 
  • Or you can just opt to eat out. There are a lot of eating places in Singapore from hawker centers to fast food chains and food courts. Prices range from $2.50 per meal (rice with meat or vegies) to around $7 for a fastfood meal.
9. Transportation - MRT, bus, LRT, taxi. Singapore is a small country. You can get from one place to another using any of the transportation mentioned above.
  • You need an ezlink card to pay for your bus/MRT/LRT fares.

10. Education - for those who have children, this is an added item on your expense list. Cost depends on the age of your child and on which centre or school you plan to enrol them.
  • pre-school kids (ages 2-6) go to nursery, k1, k2 levels. You can choose to send them to a government-subsidized centre (PCF) or private centres. Range of tuition fee is from as low as $90 per month to as high as $1,000 per month
  • primary school kids (ages 6-12) can go to government schools, semi-government funded schools, private schools or international schools. Range of tuition fee from $14.50 per month to $2,000 per month for International schools.


Friday, September 7, 2012

PSLE: the final 3 weeks

School holiday is almost over. Final revisions have to be done.

Four days after they go back to school P6 students will be sitting for their Listening Comprehension exams (14 September, Friday).

Less than two weeks after that, they will be taking their first paper, English (27 September, Thursday), followed by Maths (28 September, Friday).

Given a 2-day break over the weekend, they will sit for the last 2 papers, Mother Tongue (1 October, Monday) and Science (2 October, Tuesday). After which they will have their well-deserved holiday - Children's Day (5 October, Friday)!!!

Let's give our 100% support and motivation to our children. They need it now more than ever (at least for this phase in their life).



Monday, September 3, 2012

A great teacher is....

- someone who knows his/her subject matter well and able to impart the knowledge to his/her students

- someone who focuses not only on the academic excellence of the students but their values as well

- someone who writes words of encouragement to students when they didn't do well in exams

- someone who lifts the spirits of students whenever they don't reach their goal and show them that he/she is there to guide them throughout the process of learning things again

- someone who is able to talk to the parents about their children's progress and shares with them different way to help the students do better next time

- someone who is trustworthy enough for the students to be open with all their questions and doubts about the subject matter

- someone who is approachable enough that every parent is at ease with in voicing out their concerns about their children

- someone who takes time and makes time to let students as well as parents know that help/advice is just a phone call, SMS or an email away

- someone who tries to bring out the best in every student as much as they can, with the help of the parents

- someone who truly cares, not only about the grades, but the whole well-being of the student

- someone who is willing to work hand in hand with parents to help a student in need

- someone who inspires and motivates

- someone who shows authority and is strict, but also has a caring nature



A great teacher is all of these and more.

I'm very fortunate to be able to work with such great teachers in my sons' learning journeys.

I will forever be grateful to them.

Thumbs up to these great teachers!!!



A tribute to my sons' teachers in 2012

As we celebrate Teacher's Day 2012 I told myself I have to write something about the teachers who have been there to guide and mentor my children, in recognition of their hard work and in appreciation of the effort they put in to their profession.

I have posted Teacher's Day greetings on Facebook through our parent volunteer group. I have also posted a pre-blog greeting to the teachers in my FB wall. I have sent personal text/email/skype messages (and still sending up to now) to each and every one of my sons' teachers. It was an emotional one for me because I am really grateful for all the things they have done - not only as teachers, but as second parents, to my boys.

As mentioned in my wall, these teachers truly are the epitome of caring, devoted, reliable, inspiring, and successful teachers students and parents are hoping for.

To Kelvin's teachers:
  • Mdm Tay Chor Lin (form and Math teacher) 
    • she was Kelvin's teacher in P1, P5 and P6 so I can safely say that she has somehow seen Kelvin's growth and development through the years. When Kelvin was in P1, I was very excited for him to experience life in primary school and I hoped for a good teacher to walk him through the first year of formal education. If my memory serves me right, Mdm Tay (Miss Tay back then) was quite a new teacher. My idea of a good teacher was someone who can inspire students, who can teach well not only academics but good values as well, someone who can communicate to the parents comfortably. And she did not disappoint. She was very approachable and she made sure that her students (all boys in this case) did their work neatly every time. I knew then that Kelvin was in good hands. 
    • Four years after, when I found out that she was going to be Kelvin's form teacher again in P5 and in P6, I was confident that Kelvin, in these 2 delicate years in primary, will again be in caring hands. Mdm Tay showed me in several occasions that she really cares about her students. She knows them well, not only in academics but also their behaviors/attitudes. 
    • she is able to communicate what she observes about her students in the classroom to parents so that we can work hand-in-hand to help our children do better in school.
    • I remember what she said in the last meeting during P5 that it's not really just about academics but what values we can instill in our boys. And I do agree with her on that. I'm glad she is able to see the good in the boys and enhance that for them to become better students and have good values.
    • I appreciate the fact that we can reach her whenever we have questions - whether it's a weekday or a weekend, and even during holidays! That simply shows that she really makes time for her students, even if she has to sacrifice a few minutes of her supposed free time. That to me is dedication. 
  • Mdm Uma (English teacher) 
    • I can't stress enough how lucky my son's class is when I found out that they will be handled by the head of the English department during the P5 and P6 years. I knew it was going to be such a challenge for Kelvin because the teacher will definitely have big expectations and stricter rules. It can also be quite intimidating knowing I will be talking to the head of the department whenever it's results day every term or so. But she, like Mdm Tay, was very friendly. 
    • She assured me that if there were any questions or concerns regarding Kelvin, I can just call or sms her. She even made time to meet with me during one of the terms to personally explain to me Kelvin's progress and how we can help each other guide Kelvin to do better in the subject. 
    • She also lets me know whenever there is a positive development in Kelvin like the time when he got perfect in his prelims orals. She saw me during my duty at the Lego room and stopped for a while to share the good news. That is a wonderful gesture coming from a teacher. Even though she knew Kelvin will tell me when he gets home, she made it a point to personally tell me, somehow to reassure me that we are going on the right track in helping Kelvin. It inspired me, and motivated Kelvin to do well knowing that his teacher was proud of his achievements.
    • She leads by example. By that I mean she speaks well and with that she also expects better things from her students.
  • Ms Han (Science teacher) 
    • to have an award-winning teacher can be a pressure for the students to do well, but Ms Han creates a very positive atmosphere in the classroom  (and even outside the classroom) wherein she motivates her students to ask her any scientific questions they can think of. 
    • Like Mdm Uma and Mdm Tay, she also gave her personal number to the students, as well as the parents, so she can be reached anytime if there are any concerns or questions. Sometimes the boys even sms her with questions not related to the topics they are discussing but she still replies to their queries because she believes this will enable them to think further. 
    • She gains the students' trust  and I believe they learn better that way. 
    • She communicates to the parents what the weak areas are and gives suggestions as to how we can help to improve our children's performance. She even calls parents who are not able to attend meetings to update them on their child's development. She never puts the students down even if their marks fall but lifts their spirits up by telling them that they can do better with a little help. She really is devoted to having her students learn and enjoy learning Science.
  • Mdm Lee Teck Lan (Kelvin's Chinese teacher in P5)
    • the first thing I liked about Mdm Lee is that she is able to speak good English (goodbye to language barrier). This meant I can communicate my concerns to her better and she can respond in a way that I can clearly understand.
    • She explains Kelvin's status in school well. She tells me when there are both good and not-so-good results as well as behaviors in class. She makes sure I know I we can both talk to Kelvin if there are any behaviors that need to be corrected.
    • The one thing that really impressed me the most was when the time came that Kelvin's MT marks were quite low. I was at a dilemma whether to have him go to PSLE with his MT or to apply for MT in lieu at the last minute. I asked for her suggestion as to what to do in Kelvin's case. She deliberately looked for Kelvin's MT teachers from P1 to P4, talked to them about Kelvin's situation and asked for their suggestions as to what the better options are. She met with me afterwards, presented to me the options and came up with the advice of continuing MT until PSLE because she knows, based on an overall assessment from his previous teachers, that Kelvin can pass and do better. She explained to me in detail what MT in PSLE would be like and how he could score better, which parts he should focus on, etc. She also mentioned that the option of taking MT in lieu may not work to his advantage in secondary as he will not have enough knowledge by that time when everyone else taking the subject will have studied the language in depth as compared to him. I am impressed at how she was able to make time to approach Kelvin's previous MT teachers and prepare an analysis of what path is best for us to take. For this I am really grateful. 
To Ira's teacher:
  • Mr Thiru (form, Math, Social Studies and English teacher)
    • fierce as he is known to his students, but I believe at some point teachers do have to be fierce especially if they are handling a class of 30 EXTREMELY active boys. The boys need to know who is in-charge in class.
    • putting his fierce nature aside, I commend Mr Thiru for being able to handle a class like P2-Service. He is able to get their attention and have them learn something at the end of the day. How do I know this? One time, I asked Ira what the new topic in Math was. He explained it to me in a very clear manner. I was impressed. That meant he was listening and Mr Thiru explained the subject well in class. 
    • I saw how patient he was with the boys and he takes their active nature positively saying they are just full of energy but they are not the naughty types. It's reassuring to know that he sees the good in his students.
  • Ms Arshi (French Faster, tuition teacher)
    • a very patient teacher
    • she knows how to motivate Ira even when he is not a very good mood (sessions are after-school and sometimes he is so sleepy)
    • she compliments every little achievement and improvement which motivates Ira to do well
    • she is bubbly and approachable

These are only some of the teachers I have come to know in and out of Montfort Junior School.   There are still many more and I could go on and on about their qualities and my experiences working with them. That may yet be in another blog.

Being a parent volunteer opened my eyes as to what a teacher does and experiences in class and in school activities. It made me appreciate them more because I am more aware of what really happens in school. 

It's not easy being a teacher. But they chose to be one and they are doing very well at it.

Sometimes we only think of teachers if we have some complains or questions about our children. I think sometimes we demand too much from them maybe because we don't really know how much work they are doing.  We complain about not getting the exam paper results right away, not taking into consideration that they have to go through 30+ papers. Some parents talk to teachers only to ask about what the teachers are doing to help their children improve, without asking what they can do to help. And so on, and so forth. 

I say we, as parents, should treat teachers as partners in moulding our children - to become educated people with good values. Let us not leave the responsibility of doing this to the teachers alone. They are already doing a big part on our children's lives.

There are many other teachers that deserve our gratitude, and I say we must let them know. That is the least we could do to show our appreciation for all their hard work. For the difference that they make in our children's lives.


I read an article online (http://www.greatschools.org/improvement/quality-teaching/79-what-makes-a-great-teacher.gs) and would like to share it with you. 

"What makes a great teacher? Teaching is one of the most complicated jobs today. It demands broad knowledge of subject matter, curriculum, and standards; enthusiasm, a caring attitude, and a love of learning; knowledge of discipline and classroom management techniques; and a desire to make a difference in the lives of young people. With all these qualities required, it's no wonder that it's hard to find great teachers."

  • Great teachers set high expectations for all students. They expect that all students can and will achieve in their classroom, and they don't give up on underachievers.
  • Great teachers have clear, written-out objectives.Effective teachers have lesson plans that give students a clear idea of what they will be learning, what the assignments are and what the grading policy is. Assignments have learning goals and give students ample opportunity to practice new skills. The teacher is consistent in grading and returns work in a timely manner.
  • Great teachers are prepared and organized. They are in their classrooms early and ready to teach. They present lessons in a clear and structured way. Their classrooms are organized in such a way as to minimize distractions.
  • Great teachers engage students and get them to look at issues in a variety of ways. Effective teachers use facts as a starting point, not an end point; they ask "why" questions, look at all sides and encourage students to predict what will happen next. They ask questions frequently to make sure students are following along. They try to engage the whole class, and they don't allow a few students to dominate the class. They keep students motivated with varied, lively approaches.
  • Great teachers form strong relationships with their students and show that they care about them as people. Great teachers are warm, accessible, enthusiastic and caring. Teachers with these qualities are known to stay after school and make themselves available to students and parents who need them. They are involved in school-wide committees and activities, and they demonstrate a commitment to the school.
  • Great teachers are masters of their subject matter.They exhibit expertise in the subjects they are teaching and spend time continuing to gain new knowledge in their field. They present material in an enthusiastic manner and instill a hunger in their students to learn more on their own.
  • Great teachers communicate frequently with parents.They reach parents through conferences and frequent written reports home. They don't hesitate to pick up the telephone to call a parent if they are concerned about a student.
I'm really very grateful that my sons are under the care of their teachers. They exemplify the characteristics of great teachers. Let us continue to support such teachers so that they will continue to do their part in bringing out the best in our children.






Monday, August 27, 2012

If the shoe fits

One of the things that always stresses me out is (believe it or not) shoe shopping.

I do love to shop around for good, comfy and cheap footwear. But most of the times I get flat shoes if not sandals or flipflops (and the likes). So when it comes to buying casual to formal footwear I'm always in a rut.

Recently I needed to get a black heeled shoes (I've been wanting to get one again just in case I go back to work). Went to shoe shops alone, then with a friend, then again for the 3rd time with the same friend (thanks, Mydie for the patience).

Found a nice design with straps (Kiyo) but the price wasn't right for me. So had to look at other options. I ended up opting for the more classic design (no straps) and finally found one at Bata (but I'm not crossing out that Kiyo pair from my list).

Three days after buying them, I realized they didn't really fit my feet well (I always forget that when shopping for shoes I should go in the afternoon when my feet are at their full-blown size).

I called the Bata shop where I bought the shoes from and asked if I could exchange them. Luckily they allowed it (since I haven't really used the pair yet). Not only that. I was also given the option to exchange them in the closest Bata shop to my place!

I was relieved to find the perfect pair for my imperfect feet. Thanks, Bata! You're really a reliable brand (so far).

The Art of Documenting: safeguarding those important papers


I have always been (or at least I try to be) an efficient organizer. I want clothes to be folded properly in the closet. I make sure things are in their proper places most of the times (it's difficult when you have 2 boys at home). And most importantly, I try to keep all important (and sometimes the not-so-important but sentimental) papers/documents. You can say I got the habit that from my mother.

I remember this one time when I participated in a competition when I was in primary school (can't remember which one though). My mother was so nervous (she always was every time I compete) that she didn't go to school to watch (she usually doesn't). After the competition my teacher/coach sent her a note. She was a bit hesitant to open the note, but anxious to read what's written in there. When she finally got the courage to do so, this was what greeted her:


My mom had kept this paper as a souvenir of that special day (and many others). And I have brought it here to Singapore with me, together with other important documents like diplomas, certificates, report cards, etc from when I was in preschool up to uni years. Yes, my mother has kept all of them in order in a file so she could hand it over to me when I move on to another chapter in my life (in short, when I got married and became a mom like her). 

I believe that this is a very effective way of documentation. We don't really know when we will be needing these papers, and which papers will be useful. But it's a good practice to save them for future reference/use. Better safe than sorry :) 

I'm not saying that we should keep all papers/documents that come our way. I guess as I parent, somehow, we have an idea as to which documents would be valuable in the future (whether to us or to other parties). We have the instinct to hold on to those papers (the memories), and it pays off.

I know when the PSLE results come out, I will be keeping a copy of it and saving it the way my mother has kept, saved and passed on to me ALL the important and memorable pieces of papers throughout my childhood/teenage days. I have been doing it for the past 12 years as a mother to my children - from their first scribbles to progress reports to school awards to report books. My mother has trained me well :)



Nervous Wreck No More

During my primary school years, I couldn't really comprehend why my mother was so nervous every time I participate in competitions. She was usually the more nervous and anxious one. She doesn't even go to school to watch me compete in quiz bees. Not that she didn't believe I would win (because more often than not I do, bragging aside).

Looking back, I now understand how my mom was feeling. As a mother, a parent, I became so concerned about anything that happens to my children's lives (as I'm sure she was then and is until now). As my older son goes through this right of passage called PSLE, I am trying to control my emotions and not be a nervous wreck. I take courage in the fact that my son says he is not nervous or scared (not sure if that is because he hasn't really taken in the implications of getting a good PSLE result). And I want to show him that I can also be calm and confident that he will do well, which will in turn make him more calm and confident that he can do better. More importantly, I want to reassure him that whatever the result is I will still be supporting him and going through the whole process with him.

As the prelims ends today, and the PSLE coming in the next 4 weeks, I find myself becoming less nervous and anxious. It may be because I have lowered my expectations. It may be because I have learned to let go. Whatever it is I'm glad it is happening to me now. My son and I can both relax and try to balance the pressure of going through PSLE and the fun of preparing for secondary school. After all, it doesn't really end at PSLE. It's just the beginning.

Saturday, August 25, 2012

My Star Students

The boys have recently been awarded Star Student certificates for their hard work and good behavior in class for the past term.

The awardees were also given star badges. This is Kelvin's 2nd Star student certificate and Ira's first.

Job well done, boys!

Thursday, August 23, 2012

BER months

In a few more days we will be into the BER months. There are so many celebrations to look forward to.

For the family that means the Christmas season.

For Ira that means a few more weeks to his birthday = gifts galore. Followed by Christmas time = gifts galore!

For Kelvin, it's a month long holiday = no homework, no exams. Maybe time with some cousins and friends. Totally relaxed season.

The boys also anticipate the beginning of December when I start giving out daily mini Christmas treats (gift-wrapped and all). Yes, that means I have to start shopping for small trinkets for them.

As for myself, that means lots of planning and preparations. From gift shopping to house decorating to Christmas dinner menu and maybe a small get-together with family and friends.

And what's in it for hubby? Aside from the usual expenses, I think he is also looking forward to more time with the family since he can take advantage of the leaves he's been saving the whole year.

But before we get to December and really get busy with things and tons of celebrations (anniversaries, parties, etc), I get to celebrate my birthday!

Oh, how I love BER months!


Thursday, August 16, 2012

G2000 Facebook fan reward

Being connected thru Facebook has its perks.

If you have a facebook you would have seen their 50k fan reward promo.

So click on that LIKE button and go shopping now. I've already done so and it's really a great deal (that is if they still have your size). That's $16 per top!!!!

PSLE 2012 Oral exams

It's official. PSLE starts TODAY!

After 6 years of anticipation and preparation, the students are finally facing the greatest challenge of their school life to-date.

PSLE is the most-awaited (and for some - dreaded) exam for primary school students. This is what they, and their parents and teachers, have been preparing for since P1.

And it's not just students who we should be sending our well-wishes to (and offer our prayers for) but also the parents, who are usually the more nervous and anxious ones.

To parents like myself, let's give the children our love and support and motivation. We've all done our part in guiding and preparing them up to this day. Now it's all out of our hands. Let us be confident that our children have gained enough knowledge and have prepared themselves well for the PSLE. And that they will be doing their best to perform well.

Good luck to the Golden Dragon cohort!

Wednesday, August 15, 2012

2012 PSLE Instructions to Candidates handbook

As mentioned in my earlier blog, the school should have handed each P6 pupil the 2012 PSLE Instructions to Candidates handbook issued by SEAB. Below is the photo of the front page of the handbook.

This handbook is indeed very handy and very informative. We should go through with the contents of this handbook with our P6 children before they take PSLE. This will not only help them prepare the supplies needed to take the exams but also their psyche.

Topics such as exam regulations, exam format, use of dictionaries and calculators, what to do if students are unable to take their exams, withdrawal from PSLE, results and certificates, as well as full details of the exams timetable are included in the handbook.

Don't forget to verify if your children have the approved scientific calculators and dictionaries in the lists provided (Annex B and C). They also need to have the gadgets stamped by the school for use during the PSLE.










Monday, August 13, 2012

Counting down to PSLE 2012

The most-awaited exam for P6 students and parents is just around the corner. The chills, the thrills, all the preparations, tuition hours and hard work of students, teachers and parents will finally be put to the test.

As per www.seab.gov.sg, here are the important dates for PSLE so mark your calendars:



Your children's respective schools should have handed you the schedules for their orals this coming Thursday and Friday (reminder: P1-P5 students don't have class). Do take note of their PSLE reference numbers as well as their exam sessions and timings. These are very important details to help prepare our children for the coming PSLE.

The school should also have provided parents with a PSLE instruction handbook (got one from my son's school last week). It contains ALL the Dos and Donts for the PSLE. I think this is a very handy material that parents and children should go over with before the PSLE. Reviewing / revising for the exams is crucial, but information like those in the handbook will also help prepare the students in terms of materials to use etc.

I will be posting some of the info in the handbook once we get it back from the teacher (parents need to sign the front page of the book, to be double checked by the teachers, and returned to parents afterwards).

GOODLUCK, Dragon students! 

Wednesday, May 23, 2012

Raising A Gentleman

Times have changed, so they say. We are now in the computer age where women seek equality and men are no longer the "Knights in shining armors". But do we really want these?

As a mother of two fast-growing boys, it's a big task I put upon myself to be able to raise well-mannered children (no pressure there). I've read dozens of magazines and books about parenting. I've shared experiences with fellow moms, even with my male counterparts. But I know that no specific parenting rule that applies to everyone. And so with hundreds of stories, tips, suggestions, as well as personal experiences to draw from, my 12 years of parenting is still sort of a trial-and-error process. I am glad though that my boys are in a school which has the same set of values I want my children to have as it wants to imbue to their students.


In a recent Facebook post of the school's principal, Ms Chye, to the Montfort Junior Parent's Connection wall (parent volunteers group), she shared with us this very timely article: "Manners for Boys: "Gentlemen" - An Endangered Species? (http://www.googolpower.com/content/articles/manners-for-boys-gentlemen-an-endangered-species).


I would like to share the main points of the article as follows: 10 simple steps to raising a new generation of gentlemen:

  1. Gentlemen have respectful attitudes which lead to respectful actions and words. They greet people with a smile, nod or "hello" as they pass people. Their attitude is one of putting others first - based on The Golden Rule... to treat others the way they would like to be treated.
  2. Gentlemen use respectful words: "Please" "Thank You" "You're Welcome" and "Excuse Me." Instead of "What?" and "Huh?" they say "Pardon me?" They say "Yes Ma'am" and "No Sir" respectfully. They never use cursing or cussing words. Gentlemen also have the courage to use difficult words like, "I'm Sorry" "I made a mistake" and "Will You Forgive Me?
  3. Gentlemen open doors for Ladies and allow them to pass through first, saying, "After you!" All children open the door for their elders
  4. Gentlemen walk a Lady to the car and open the car door for her
  5. A Gentleman offers his seat to a Lady. Gentlemen should offer their seat to their elders or pregnant women in crowded buses or waiting rooms. Never be seated until your mother is seated. (I was humbled and thrilled to find out that the distinguished, elderly gentleman who had offered me his seat one day in Seattle for basketball's "Final Four" tournament was the legendary UCLA Basketball Coach, John Wooden!)
  6. A Gentleman helps a Lady put on her coat or sweater. He also offers to help carry heavy packages for a lady. Children offer to carry the bags for their mothers. If the lady drops something, the gentleman will pick it up for her.
  7. Gentlemen stand when a Lady enters the room or when he is introduced to someone
  8. Gentlemen seat a Lady at the dinner table before they seat themselves. They rise when ladies excuse themselves and when they return. The gentleman takes care of the lady to his right.
  9. The Gentleman protects a Lady from danger. He walks on the curb side of the road as a courtesy of protection and to keep the lady from getting splashed by puddles. He also stands behind a lady on an escalator going up; and in front of her going down to protect her from falling. He walks down a dark theatre aisle first and the lady will follow. 
  10. A Gentleman will never EVER hit or hurt a Lady. A boy must never hit or hurt a girl, but rather use his strength to protect a girl.

So there you are. Simple as it may seem we can't really teach our kids just by letting them read this or reading this to them. Children learn through imitation, so fathers STEP UP! What our sons see in us, they will do unto others. Home is where our children learn their basic values. I'm sure it's not that hard to be a gentleman to your wives first, right?!





Wednesday, May 16, 2012

You: Stress Less...Bonus!

THE YOU STRESS MANAGEMENT PLAN

Stress management isn't about eliminating it; after all, stress can be good for you. It's actually all about regulation - turning the dials of your emotions so you can best handle what life tosses at you.

STRESS STRATEGIES
  • Identify the sources of your stress. The first step to managing your stress is pinpointing the culprit.
  • Focus on the moment - you'll have better stress management by being "mindful" (paying attention to the present and trying to get out of the gears of the past and the future - both of which are major sources of stress)
    • one way to practice living in the moment = the body scan. Focus on every part of your body, which will help you to relax:
      • lie down
      • close your eyes and notice your posture
      • think about the natural flow of your breath, focusing on air filling and leaving the lungs
      • notice your toes - any tension, tingling, or temperature change?
      • move to thinking about your feet, heels and ankles, all the way up through the knees, thighs and pelvis
      • continue with each body part, going through both the front and back of your body as you work your way up, and finishing with the throat, jaw, tongue, face and brow
  • Go through your health checklist - stress is much more manageable when the other aspects of your life (from your general health to your sleep patterns to your eating habits) are in good order
    • when you don't get enough sleep, your body produces more stress hormones, making you more vulnerable to the damaging effects of stress
    • evaluate what areas in your life need your attention, and work on fixes
  • Do the opposite - every emotion has an "urge to act" that goes with it (eg. when we feel afraid or anxious, we avoid things; when we are depressed or sad, we withdraw; when we are angry, we lash out; etc). Each of these mood-inspired behaviors actually increase an emotion, not decreases it.
    • if you can act the opposite way, you can decrease the emotion
    • rather than letting your emotions determine what you do, take control and choose how you feel
  • Focus on your muscles - by tensing and relaxing your muscles, you can help relieve some of your stored physical stress
    • tense and relax different muscle groups in your body one at a time. When done, relax for a few minutes.
DEEP BREATHING AND MEDITATION
- may help modify the messages sent from the gut and the rest of the body to the brain via the vagus nerve. Controlling your vagus nerve can help you with everything from improving your memory to improving your immune system.
- carve out time each day to breathe deeply and meditate. Before bed is a good time, or anytime when you're trying to manage stress.
  • Deep Breathing = lie flat on the floor, with one hand on your belly and one hand on your chest. Take a deep breath in slowly - it should take about 5 seconds for you to inhale (imagine your lungs filling up with air). As your diaphragm pulls your chest cavity down, your belly button should move away from your spine, filling your lungs. Your chest will also widen and perhaps rise. When your lungs feel full, and you even feel a tiny bit of discomfort in the solar plexus, just below the breastbone, exhale slowly (Taking about 7 seconds). Pull your belly button to your spine to get all the air out.
  • Meditation = the goal is to clear your mind of all thoughts.
    • the first step: silence. Discipline yourself to squirrel away 5 minutes of silence a day.
    • to help your mind and meditate, pick a simple word (like ohm) and repeat it to yourself over and over. Focusing on the word helps keep distracting thoughts from seeping into your gray matter.
THE 14-DAY DE-STRESS PLAN

Day 1
  • Take a 30-minute walk
  • Take 1 minute in a quiet room. Close your eyes and breathe deeply (follow deep breathing technique above). Focus on one word or image. If you are having trouble with this, try the "Stress Less" program from the www.clevelandclinic.org/wellness or www.360.5.com sites.
  • Give a compliment to someone who needs to hear one.
  • Make a Garden Harvest Soup that you can keep on hand for the week to eat in case of hunger / stress emergencies.
Day 2
  • Practice deep breathing for 2 minutes.
  • Try any 1 yoga move from the yoga workout.
  • Make plans to do something fun with a spouse, partner, friend, or relative on Day 6.
Day 3
  • Take a 30-minute walk.
  • Practice deep breathing for 2 minutes.
  • Substitute green tea for your usual "energy" drink.
  • Spend 2 minutes focusing on having good posture.
Day 4
  • Practice deep breathing for 2 minutes.
  • For optimum energy and to avoid highs and lows, look at your meals today and strive for balance between protein, healthy fat, 100% whole grain carbohydrates. Make note of your energy levels throughout the day.
  • Take a quick audit of your environment (work or home) and see if you can identify things that cause you stress. Purchase some lavender and lemon aroma packs or sachets to see if these help, and brainstorm ways to eliminate (or reduce) that stress.
Day 5
  • Take a 30-minute walk.
  • Practice deep breathing for 3 minutes.
  • Write a thank-you note to someone unexpected about something unexpected (and send it!)
  • Have the perfect late-afternoon snack instead of relying on perhaps an energy crutch: We recommend a piece of fruit and a handful of nuts.
Day 6
  • Practice deep breathing for 3 minutes.
  • Do the "something fun" you planned a few days ago.
  • Spend a few minutes and roll your neck in circles, then rock it from front to back to help relieve tension you're storing there.
Day 7
  • Take a 30-minute walk.
  • Practice deep breathing for 3 minutes.
  • Buy a pack of tennis balls. Take one and roll it over chronically sore muscles, or places in your body where you store tension.
Day 8
  • Practice deep breathing for 5 minutes.
  • Make a list of the nagging stresses in your life, then brainstorm solutions for how to resolve or eliminate them.
Day 9
  • Take a 30-minute walk.
  • Practice deep breathing for 5 minutes.
  • Make a list of all the reasons why you love life; put it somewhere where you'll take a look every so often.
  • Write a thank-you note.
Day 10
  • Practice deep breathing for 5 minutes.
  • Make a smoothie that contains low-fat milk, non-fat yogurt, a dab of natural peanut butter, ice and your favorite fruit - lots of nutrients, lots of energy.
  • Send an email to an old friend you haven't talk to in years (tell him or her you were thinking about them).
Day 11
  • Take a 30-minute walk.
  • Practice deep breathing for 5 minutes.
  • Try new yoga poses.
Day 12
  • Practice deep breathing for 5 minutes.
  • Add a plant to your office or other room where you spend most of the day.
  • With your family or friends, make a "play" date - for yourself. Choose a board game, a sport, something that reminds you to get loose and have fun.
Day 13
  • Take a 30-minute walk.
  • Practice deep breathing for 5 minutes.
  • Try a few new yoga poses.
Day 14
  • Practice deep breathing for 10 minutes.
  • Swing on a swing, take a hike, go out and play.
  • Ask yourself the best way to help others. Make arrangements to do that.














You: Stress Less... Stress-Management Technique 8

FOR THE MIND AND SOUL


73. LEARN FROM BUDDHISM
  • the goal of Buddhist meditation isn't to suppress emotions that are harmful but rather to identify how they arise, how they are experienced, and how they influence us in the long run
  • for Buddhists, the good life isn't achieved by transcending an emotion - not even hatred - but by effectively managing it
  • 3 mental processes that are toxic to the mind (and that lead to all kinds of mental suffering)
    1. Craving = me, mine, mmmmm
      • cravings happen when a person exaggerates the good qualities of an object while ignoring the bad ones. Therefore, cravings can disrupt the balance of the mind, easily leading to anxiety, misery, fear and anger
    2. Hatred = the reverse of craving
      • exaggerates the bad qualities and deemphasizes the good ones
      • driven by the with to harm or destroy anything that gets in your way
      • the impression is that the dissatisfaction belongs to the object, when the true source of it is the mind alone
    3. Delusion = according to Buddhism, the self is constantly in a state of dynamic flux and is profoundly interdependent with other people and the environment. However, people habitually delude themselves about the actual nature of the self by superimposing the interpretations of their own reality.
74. THINK ABOUT YOUR SPIRITUALITY
  • one study shows that those who prayed for health reasons said it was helpful
    • it relaxes = a form of meditation (no matter what your religious preferences), prayer helps to slow breathing and brain activity, and reduces heart rate and blood pressure. All relaxing, all good.
    • it's positive = after praying you're filled with peace, joy and other emotions that are worthy of being printed on holiday cocktail napkins. There's some evidence that these emotions lead to positive physiological responses throughout the entire body. Our stress hormone levels prepare for a peaceful existence.
    • it's better than nothing (i.e. the placebo effect) = simply because the person feels as if it's helping, whether it's helping physiologically or not
    • it's supernatural = the hardest reason to quantify, it's also one of the most powerful
75. GIVE, THEN PASS
  • there are few feelings in the world that surpass knowing you've helped someone - whether it's through financial donation or a mentoring program or giving up your seat on a crowded bus. It feels good - and is good.
  • some researchers have found the effect of giving, of altruisms small and big, is similar to the so-called runner's high (the rush of endorphins). This rush can last a long time.
  • 90% of people who experience this high give their health condition a better grade than those who don't. The reason: it seems that charity might really start at home. Your thoughts about helping others help you.
    • strengthen your immune system
    • boost positive emotions
    • decrease pain
    • provide stress relief






























 

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